2009 was a very strange year. Most of this won't be about running, but there will be some running related stuff for my two followers of my blog that I haven't updated since September. And, on paper it might not be seem to be too successful. I just turned 29 this month and I've had a lot of maturing to do. This year started off with a hard lesson in relationships, but this situation taught me so much about myself and people. I'm thankful I learned the hard way and moved on.More on this may be covered in my book I'll be working on this spring. I stepped down from head outdoor track coach at Magruder to bring more balance into my personal life. I love teaching and coaching, but after many years of considering this and the past six months of re-considering - I still stand by my decision. I had more fun coaching my cross country team than ever before. We didn't steal any headlines, but this team really taught me more than I could ever imagine teaching them. Here are two big lessons these kids taught me.
1. Relationships matter more than any accomplishment. (GIRLS TEAM) While everyone in the world believes in human accomplishment. These accomplishments are merely fleeting. My girls' team dramatically improved this fall, but two injuries crushed our state dreams. The relationships between these girls are so caring and generous - it makes taking the spring off very difficult. While elite coaches would say that I have no pure talent or national level runners in the girls distance - these girls inspire me by how hard they work. They are so healthy, fun, full of life, and even made me a cake for my birthday. Several seniors will graduate and my sophomore class will no be leaned upon to lead the team. I've never cried so much at an event as I did at our banquet this year. This team is such a special groups of kids. While I'm looking forward to next fall - I know it will be a huge adjustment for me. They taught me that relationships and quality time matter than any victory, record, or title.
2. Boys need guidance in dealing with adversity and it's not your fault when life isn't going so smoothly for kids you coach. (BOYS TEAM) In August, my top runner came down with an injury and all I was getting asked at my invitational, practice, school, and friends. When is Nick going to run? While this might not seem like a big deal to most people and even runners. I've been coaching Nick since his freshman year and I was so excited about his senior year. But, sometimes life takes a turn, but in the end we learn a lot from failure. When I talked about Nick at the banquet - I could have listed accomplishments or times, but his story of returning from injury and dealing with the pressure of being our top runner was what I focused on. The conversations, texts, discussions, tears, and joys with Nick are things I'll remember the most. And, his anchoring victory of the distance medley relay at the FIT Invitational. :) We all need help when life takes a turn and I'm hoping I have more of these interactions with kids in 2010. They taught me that coaching is more like really mentoring and being a father-figure and role model - then making someone fast.
For these two lessons, I'm very thankful.
Part 2 coming soon - my own running in 2009 and looking forward to 2010.
Interview with Nick Escobar on mocorunning.com:
http://www.mocorunning.com/article.php?article_id=569